family

tonight i have been feeling kinda blue, down in the dumps, i'm sure you all know what i mean. nothing and everything the matter ya know lol?
well, for the first time i have really looked at the photo album, and now i am sitting here crying like a baby.
no one in my family has every had a pm or even knew what they did until i received one, so no one really understands what we go through.
i have always believed that family doesn't always mean blood relatives and tonight this photo album really brought that home to me.
i just want to say thank you all for all the help and advise you have given me and mostly just for being here.
thank you all,

pat

5 Comments

it is a difficult time of the year

by jessie - 2007-12-14 10:12:10

hi lots of people find christmas a difficult time of the year.i have figured it out during my 66 years that it is a very emotional time due to past losses. my bro died when he was 30 i was 26. he left three small children and his childhood sweetheart. he was the oldest in our family. he died of cancer blood cancer. my mother never did get over it and she died 9 years later. my point is that there are different kinds of loss and it doesn't have to be death. it very could be strained relationships in a family. i know that the pacemaker club has really helped me in one year. it is like having a big big family all over the world and someone is always there. it is great! fantastic. so thank you for your contribution to this site. we have been given a gift for sure in this club. i can't say enough pat. all i can say is try to keep busy and the rest will take care of itself. i am a great believer in handing it over to the care of a higher power when i can't handle my problems myself that is what i do hand it over. . i hope that you have a peaceful weekend the peace no one can take away. your pacemaker friend jessie remember the serenity prayer. god grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change the power to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference.

Sending You (((Hugs)))

by CJD2007 - 2007-12-14 10:12:53

Hi Pat,

I know what you mean and I want to send you a big (((HUG))). I hope you feel better soon, you aren't alone,
Your pm family is with you in thought and on here ;)

Wishing you a peaceful and joyful weekend,
Casey Jo :)

More hugs

by Shelly - 2007-12-15 05:12:21

Hi Pat,

Can't really add anything else to what the others above had already said - just wanted to let you know I also understand what you mean about 'blood' family, no matter how wonderful they are. It must be so hard for them to have to watch helplessly as we experience the highs and lows of having a pacemaker. I've no idea how I'd cope, or what I'd say to them if the tables were turned.

I don't believe anyone can truly understand the extent our little devices affect us, in positive and negative ways (including the doctors) unless you have one.

Just keep in mind this wonderful site, the help, support and opportunity to rant when need be. We are not alone.

So, as part of your extended pacer family, here's some 'hugs' flying all the way over from England.

All the best,

Shelly (UK)

thank you

by pat - 2007-12-15 07:12:36

to all my pacer family :)

thank you all for your words of encouragement and the hugs :) they really helped me

your sister in pacing,

pat

I don't post often but....

by Suze - 2007-12-16 11:12:22

I don't post as often as I used to, but I check in everyday and read what you all are saying and doing. I also know what you mean when you say even the most wonderful families just aren't easy to voice concerns to. . . . . . Sometimes they don't want to think about the fact that I have a pacemaker.

Even a close friend told me she didn't want to think about the fact that I'm now paced 99%. "isn't it better to not even think about your pacemaker at all?" she replied when I told her about my latest EP visit....Needless to say, I hardly mention it to her anymore.

Anyway, Pat, thanks for an important and timely post!!This can be a very depressing and stressful time of year for many of us.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers,
Suze

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