HELP

How do you possible get use to having a pacemaker? I have had mine 13 years and I am still not use to it. I was married for two years when i got mine. We were married for 8 years. Now we are divorced and I am dating now and I am terrified to tell my boyfriend about the pacemaker. I dont want him to think I am some kind of freak or something. When he saw the scar I told him, Oh its nothing I will tell you later. We have now been together for 18 months and I cant bring myself to tell him. I am afraid he wont be able to handle it and break up with me. Everybody tells me if he really loves you it wont matter, but that is easy for them to say the are not the one with the pacemaker. I always were clothes that cover it or I put makeup on the scar. I never want anybody to know I have it. I have even thought about asking the Doctor if they will remove it and let me take my chances. HELP

2 Comments

What is the difference

by carmenmarie - 2008-11-10 08:11:17

I am 55 I have had my pace maker for 3 years.
I don't consider myself a freak of nature. And if any one else would, then I say they are a lost cause and quite frankly I would not want any thing to do with them. The other part of this is give this person a little credit.And if he were to break up with you then good ridden. You deserve better than that.
Honestly I don't like the way my pace maker looks and yes it is not very sexy but I have my life and that is so much more important. I am grateful and so is my boyfriend.
Carmen from Milwaukee

Stay positive!

by tcrabtree85 - 2008-11-10 10:11:57

I know I am younger than you but I had to comment on this one. Your pm is a blessing it has given you that chance to do more and to experience more. You can't let it get in the way of having feelings for somebody.
If love is really present it wouldn't matter to your bf in the first place. I had the hardest time dealing with my scar at first but now I just look at the trials I have faced and realize the blessing that are in front of me.
Life is already short and if you had your pm removed you would still have a scar. You life is beautiful and people care about you even if you can't always see that and would want you too still be around.
I pray that you can find peace and love yourself for who you are and not just the looks.

Blessings,
Tammy

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