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life goes on
Well one month after my ablation my husband without warning told me he didn't love me and he wanted a divorce. He seems to be having a midlife crisis and unfortunately with someone almost half our age. I was completely devastated. I couldn't believe how little he cared after everything I have been through this year with my heart. I have however come to terms with it over the last few weeks. I have been blessed with a second chance at health, love, life. Everything I was most afraid of has come true and the amazing thing is I am still standing. In fact I have found that it really is true that when one door closes another one opens. I have lost over 20 pounds, I am getting back in shape and my friends and family have rallied around me, making me feel more loved than ever. While my ex may have broken my heart right after I got it "fixed", it is on the mend and coming back stronger than ever literally and figuratively.
9 Comments
Take a hike...what you told him and what you should continue
by gevans - 2008-04-25 05:04:07
Hi Bu,
I love your attitude and determination. I too, am an avid backpacker and just checked your bio re: Isle Royale. Last year I hiked three days of the Shore to Shore trail while my wife was running a multi-day relay in your state. I plan to hike another section in mid July of this year. Send me a private message if you've done sections of that trail or any of the North Country Trail.
Thanks, and keep up the good work regarding your fitness,
Gary
Shock
by Roly - 2008-04-25 07:04:25
Hello Bu so sorry you had that experience and at such a time when you were extra vulnerable.Husband could not have picked a worse time! So glad that you seem to be finding that life is offering you much more now.The old sayings do seem to hold true as you have discovered.
Health and Happiness Bu.
Roly.
Guys... what do they know?
by uvagershwin - 2008-04-25 08:04:03
I'm sorry about the thing between you and your husband, but like my mom says to me,"With your condition, you need to find someone who can and will take care of you." Those weren't her exact words, but that's close enough for government work. My boyfriend broke up with me last year, but he needed to go anyway. Hey, at least you still have your health and vitality!!!!!!!!!! That's always a bonus!
God bless you, Sydney
Thanks
by Bu - 2008-04-26 01:04:49
To everyone that replied to my message thank you. I think one of the best things I have learned through this process is that there are so many wonderful, caring people out there. Support often comes from where you least expect it. Bless you all for your kind words.
Strong women
by cottontop - 2008-04-26 01:04:55
I am sorry you had to go through that. I always try to look for the good in something bad that happens. You sound like a woman who picked her self up and moved on with her life. Hoorah for you. You are a wonderful testimony to many woman. I pray for much happiness to come to you.
God bless you,
Amy
You must fight on!
by freebird22 - 2008-04-27 12:04:22
Hi Bu
You should be really proud of yourself - you have "dug deep", found the strength to forge on and got on with the job of life - you sound focussed, determined and upbeat - well done! I've no doubt that you still get days that are gloomy and I'm sure that your husband's callous action is still hurting (may do for a while) but the important thing is that you have pulled yourself together and got on with things - good for you! My wife left me holding our two young sons aged 7 and 11 over six years ago - in fact it was the week before Christmas and I'd just been diagnosed with heart failure from DCM with a 2 to 5year prognosis - I was devastated by all of it happening at once - I used to love Christmas bouncing around like a little kid, but now I just put on a smile and do it all for my sons, it's like the anniversary of the day that my world ended - I was so in love with my wife, 6 years on - I find myself still struggling to keep going and now I'm asking my friends and yours in the Pacemaker Club for tips on how to keep going - you have certainly shown the way - I can honestly say you are an inspiration and I shall try and add your story to the tips, kindness and care that the Pacemaker Club foks have put to me. Keep going onwards and upwards Bu
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by Jules - 2008-04-25 01:04:32
Hi Bu
Well done you for coping both with PM and the awful situation that you found yourself in.
Losing the weight and getting fit. Hey can't be bad, and at the end of the day they are the losers.
Take good care Jules