Spouses-I actually have a non technical question for y’all
So with all the bad news we have had over the last year. Especially finding out my mitral surgery did not reverse remodel (although it may still yet) and my heart is getting worse, I am sure y'all can relate that me and my fiancé are worried. My question is have any of you experienced your partner or spouse trying to "be the rock" and not show how worried they are? My fiancé openly admits to doing this, but it confuses me. He will tell me he will have had a conversation with a near stranger to me and came to tears (this has occurred a number of times). But rarely when he talks with me about the state of my health does he ever seem emotional (no tears). I get stressed very occasionally about the situation and come to tears only about once a month maximum but usually I have a "Shit just happens, go with it" attitude. I tell him he can talk to me about his feelings, but he says it is his job to be strong for me. Honestly, I would rather have him share those tears with me than with strangers so I knew I wasn't the only one who gets emotional about it. Telling me he gets upset and actually doing it my presence are two different things in my mind. Anyways don't worry, we have a fantastic relationship but I just wondered if anyone else has expienced a similar reaction with their spouse?
edited to add:
PersonallyI think healthy spouses have the harder time in dealing with chronic and/or terminal illness. I know I would be a complete wreck if the roles were reversed and it was me watching him get sicker.