HELP

How do you possible get use to having a pacemaker? I have had mine 13 years and I am still not use to it. I was married for two years when i got mine. We were married for 8 years. Now we are divorced and I am dating now and I am terrified to tell my boyfriend about the pacemaker. I dont want him to think I am some kind of freak or something. When he saw the scar I told him, Oh its nothing I will tell you later. We have now been together for 18 months and I cant bring myself to tell him. I am afraid he wont be able to handle it and break up with me. Everybody tells me if he really loves you it wont matter, but that is easy for them to say the are not the one with the pacemaker. I always were clothes that cover it or I put makeup on the scar. I never want anybody to know I have it. I have even thought about asking the Doctor if they will remove it and let me take my chances. HELP

4 Comments

TELL HIM

by lahbigbro6 - 2008-11-10 07:11:22

I pretend that I do not have a pacemaker, I go about my daily life. The less time you think about it the better. Tell your boyfriend, if he does not like it then he is not the right choice. I usually tell everyone I meet, except at work, the people are very prejudice of all people. I work at a doctor's office, but the people have very questionable ethics. Anyway, I feel if you cannot discuss your secrets with your boyfriend now what about later ?

trust

by Tracey_E - 2008-11-10 07:11:27

Have a little faith, part of love is accepting every part of the other person, flaws and all. If he's judgmental and shallow, he doesn't deserve you!

Why would you even think that he'd consider you a freak?? Most people are awed when it comes up that I have a pm, I've never once had a negative response. People will follow your lead. I don't act like it's a big deal so they don't either.

I don't think of myself as a freak. Go take a peek at the member gallery, I doubt you'll see any freaks there either. I think I'm a perfectly normal woman who just happens to have a bit of help keeping a normal heartbeat. No different from my diabetic friend on insulin, or my overweight friend struggling to control her weight- I don't think they're freaks either. Anyone with a problem with that needs to grow up ;o)

Iam a Man

by walkerd - 2008-11-11 07:11:56

And I dont know why you would hide it, if he loves you its not going to matter and like tracy said if it makes a difference then he doesnt deserve you. It is just a device to help your heart and that is all it is. If it makes you a freak then there are alot of freaks world wide. Sorry but that is kinda of narrow minded on your part. Isnt it. What exactly do u fear? Have faith kn the truth will set you free. and what i mean by that you must be worried to death over it, and that is unhealthy for you.

dave

I'm a man 2

by junyerbear - 2008-11-17 04:11:56

When I got my first pacemaker at 13, I was worried how my friends would react to my now having a one. Some were concerned about my well being, most teased me.
I guess I'm trying to say is give him a chance. I gave my friends a chance!

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