Post surgery care

Hello everyone

This forum has been really helpful and has put my mind in ease. I have a query here, my mother is 10 days post surgery and today she had her stitch removed. The site seems fine, healing is well. Can she tilt a little bit towards her right side to relax or that's a no? 

Also anymore precautions that she should be careful of from now onwards?



by Lavender - 2022-12-10 07:48:56

You and mom can both relax. She can do any motions she wants-and should! The only restrictions are not lifting anything heavier than a gallon of milk and keeping the elbow below the shoulder on the pacemaker side for the first few weeks only. 

Mom needs to move her body and shoulders and arms often or she will get stiff muscles. Don't coddle too much. Time to build up strength. Take mom for a walk, let her resume as much personal care as possible. 

Be good to yourself as well! You've been busy being an attentive caretaker. It's time to rest and enjoy life. The worst is past. 💜

post surgery care

by new to pace.... - 2022-12-10 09:13:15

your doctor should have given you a list of what she should be doing or not doing.

Also why is your age listed in the bio and not your mothers?

new to pace

Age 54

by Shagunsharma - 2022-12-10 09:47:49

She is 54 

Doctors are always so discreet and always in one surgery to another one. I have tried to find answers but it seems like I don't have enough

your mother

by new to pace.... - 2022-12-10 11:15:53

Your mother should write down her questions that she would like the doctor to answer.  That way she is in charge of her care.  If she is unable than you should have piece of paper signed by her inorder   for her  doctor to give you answers.

new to pace

It’s very common

by Lavender - 2022-12-10 11:46:39

Doctors in every country seem to be overwhelmed and busy. There's not enough instruction given post surgery in a majority of cases. I had lots of questions which is what led me to this support site. It's good that folks on the path ahead of us can offer suggestions and insight into their recovery. I learned more here than at any doctor visit. I got no list of instructions from a doctor post surgery. A small print out from the hospital told me to take tylenol and keep the wound dry. I came home wearing a sling and made sure to stop wearing it within a day to prevent frozen shoulder. I was verbally told not to raise the elbow above the shoulder. That's all. 

I don't have any daughters. I wish I had a loving daughter such as you who is looking out for your mom. There's a saying: A son is a son until he takes a wife. A daughter is a daughter for the rest of her life. 

My own mom is almost 97. She's been in a memory care facility for eight years. Her three sons rarely saw her and even less now. My sister and I visit her, I spoonfeed her. One sister goes once a year because she doesn't like seeing mom like that. 

You logged on here and joined for the sake of your mom. You are totally focused on her care. Your mom is blessed to have you. Feel free to ask anything you want. Others here will walk alongside you. Just be sure to have your mom not get overly dependent on you. She should totally be able to help herself more each day as her pain dissipates. Don't worry. Be good to yourself too. 

No worries

by TLee - 2022-12-10 16:39:06

One of the BEST things that I found out (repeatedly) on this site is that I did not need to worry about every little thing! Everyone assured me that, no matter what I did--and I probably did some dumb things--it was extremely unlikely that I would do any damage to the pacemaker or the healing incision. And guess what? They were right! 

If she is worried about the look of the scar

by LondonAndy - 2022-12-10 19:55:03

Once the wound has properly sealed (about 6 weeks typically), your mother could apply either Bio Oil or E45 cream to reduce the appearance of the scar. It needs to be done daily for ages, but by then the scar is practically invisible. 

(Having said that, the scar for my second device that was implanted in October is hardly visible anyway!)

Also, to avoid a scar going permanently dark, keep it out of sunlight for a year.

Thank you

by Shagunsharma - 2022-12-11 06:32:37

Thank you so much for such an amazing support. This community has made me feel so much less worried than I was initially. I am learning a lot about your experiences as well as putting all the advice into taking her care. Hoping for a speedy recovery for her and to all the new Pacers. I guess its pretty common to be freaked out all the time atleast in the beginning 

Freaking out is normal

by Lavender - 2022-12-11 09:19:51

Lol! I was so worried when I got my surprise pacemaker! I had no paper with me at the hospital and wrote a long list of concerns on the daily report they gave me. I felt totally unprepared for this CRT-P. I felt like I was so fragile. 

I walked over to my neighbor's to ask him about his pacemaker because I knew he was a long time wearer. He said he doesn't think about it at all. He forgot he had one. He hunted and fished, hiked and just went about life ignoring the device. He didn't even recall going through any recovery after. 

I thought that I would never get to that point of not thinking about my device and feeling safe. Sure enough, in time, the brain and body adjusted to it. I don't think about it, I forget about it. Too busy living. 

It takes time. I thought I would never be *normal*. I was uncomfortable and anxious for seven months then one day I realized I hadn't noticed the pacemaker. 


by Shagunsharma - 2022-12-11 11:27:53

I am trying to relax as much as I can. 

How long were you given antibiotics for? 


by Lavender - 2022-12-11 13:14:54

I was not given any antibiotics after leaving the hospital. Before I left the hospital, I was given IV antibiotics as a preventative.  

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