I’m so young

I will be 30 Saturday. I've had my PM for one week today. I'm also 20 weeks pregnant and a mom of two. I'm very emotional which can be in some part from pregnancy but I just can't believe I'm so young and had to go thru all of this. I'm doing well physically BUT emotionally I'm afraid, embarrassed, and scared of the unknown in my future. Just looking for some coping mechanisms. 


11 Comments

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by new to pace.... - 2022-11-21 15:47:44

Welcome, Sorry you have to belong to this club  It would help if you put in your bio the reason for the pacemaker.  Would help all of us  to know what answers to give to your query.

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Young

by AgentX86 - 2022-11-21 16:22:56

Welcome to the club, TWILL. We wish you were planning a vacation, but here we are.

Your pacmaker is the least of your worries.  You have twenty years of late night horrors to go through before your little one (and will always be "little" in your eyes) is on his/her own.  ...and then you're not done worrying.  You'll have grandchildren and it'll start all over again. You'll have to set a note in your calendar to remember that you have a pacemaker. Really. I only think about mine when I'm here or have a doctor's appointment.

You're going through a lot with hormones (can only comment on it second-hand) but try relax and enjoy what you can of motherhood (and your sleep).  I'm told it's great. ...in hindsight. Don't sweat the small stuff. Your pacemaker will take care of itself, and you.

Young

by Good Dog - 2022-11-21 17:57:05

You are not alone. Many of us here got our pacemakers at a young age. Some before they hit double-digits. I was in my 30's and I've had this thing now for 36 years. I am here to tell you that these devices are very trouble-free. My life has been as normal as anyone else since I got my PM. In-fact, my pacemaker did not change the quality of my life or my lifestyle in any way. So cheer-up your life will be whatever you make of it. In time, it is likely that you will forget you even have a PM. 

 

I wish you the very best and hope you cheer-up for the holidays. Don't let this minor bump in the road ruin your spirits. It will get much better.

Sincerely,

Dave

Young

by Aberdeen - 2022-11-21 18:43:19

I wish you well - try not to worry! A lot of people receive pacemakers at a young age and continue to lead happy, healthy lives!

Hello Twill!

by Tanno - 2022-11-21 18:56:09

I've had my pacemaker for 2 weeks to the day, and I am only 26! Not something I'd ever expect myself to have or need, and initially when it was first suggested I was completely against the idea and was distraught, but after 2 weeks, my arm feels fine and I am honestly already forgetting that it's there.

I think it's important to remember to stretch your left arm, but also to not worry about it whether it's doing its job, or not to worry about your chest healing.

Emotionally it was also hard hitting, I was worried about friends, family looking at me differently, but honestly, it's been a fun experience that we've been able to joke about.

Welcome and a wrap around cyber hug🥹

by Lavender - 2022-11-21 19:23:35

Aw of course you're upset! My gosh you have your hands full already! I know it's a shock and not what anyone wants. I thought pacemakers were for old people 😜

In fact, I was told that one day I would need one. The nurse told me that anyone could get a pacemaker and even babies have them. 

Now your life is saved and you're better assured that you will be a grandmother one day-like me! Aw I loved having my small kids. You're at such a great stage of life! Relax and enjoy them. I had a little plaque when my kids were young:

"quiet down dust, cobwebs go to sleep...I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep"

Fear is natural but you can replace that if you train yourself! When you feel it, say, "I see you fear, and you're not in control here- be gone!"

 I always suggest that folks listen to youtube meditation self relaxation talks by Michael Sealey-  google it  😉

Lord, I lift up to you all of those who today are walking through pain or fear. Some of them may be walking through unbearable valleys of suffering that I couldn’t begin to comprehend. I ask for your comfort for them. I ask that you reveal your love to them in ways they might have never known before. I pray for your encouragement and grace to sustain them during this season of sorrow or anxiety. I ask that you would bring people alongside them to comfort and help sustain them. I ask that you strengthen their faith to trust that you have plans to prosper them, plans to give them hope and a future. I ask that you help them to trust that the outcome might not be what they planned, but it will be so much better because you planned it. I ask these things in Jesus’ name, amen.

Young with a pacemaker

by Westy - 2022-11-22 04:42:44

Hi I was 38 went into hospital out of the blue needed a pacemacker and found out I had congenital heart disease. Was so scared thought   . As got a 2 yr old to look after and wanted to see her grow up. The people on here made me feel loads better with the pacemaker an after awhile I wasn't so scared about my pacemaker. You will be fine it's cos it's so new to you . Take care 

It Gets Better!

by Meliseo - 2022-11-22 05:45:38

Hi Twill,

If it helps, I'm pretty young too (33), and just got a pacemaker a few months ago. I always thought pacemakers were really something for elderly people with serious heart conditions. Last year I was doing just fine, but this year I started waking up in the middle of the night feeling sick, only to pass out a few minutes later. It turned out that my blood pressure would drop and my heart would then take a long pause before starting up again.

Knowing my heart was just randomly stopping in the middle of the night for seemingly no reason scared the stuffing out of me! I was so frightened that I had to spend about two months getting treated for anxiety. I'm generally a pretty happy-go-lucky person who loves life, so I'd never experienced this level of anxiety before, never even had any kind of therapy.

What I can tell you is that I have experienced grief before, and I went through a similar experience with all of this. Thoughts like "this can't be happening! I'm too young! I'm healthy." I was angry that this had happened, while my friends and family were all just going about their lives normally. Why couldn't I just be fine, like them? I started to believe that it was only a matter of time before my heart paused and never started again, or paused while I was at the top of a flight of stairs. I believed I was doomed. I poured hours and hours into researching the disease, searching for anything I could do to cure it.

You may go through a similar grieving process, or experience a lot of anxiety over it as I did. But you're gonna' be okay!

What helped me was meeting other young people with pacemakers and hearing their stories. Believe it or not, one of the nurses at the clinic I attended for my anxiety had one, and my soon-to-be brother-in-law did as well. I was lucky to have some people to talk to in real life, but this forum helped tremendously too! There are many people here who have gone through similar experiences at all ages, and I was encouraged by those who went on to lead full, happy lives after receiving their pacemakers.

I'm feeling so much better just a few months after receiving my pacemaker. No more heart pauses, no more fainting so far. I'm starting to think about it less and less over time. We've both got our whole lives ahead of us still, and we can enjoy them to the fullest!

You may not be able to do this while pregnant or breastfeeding, but future brother-in-law and I were both prescribed anti-depressants. It turns out they help with anxiety too, something I never knew before all of this. I was very hesitant to try them at first, but eventually I gave in, and they've worked wonders for me. I'm no longer trembling like a frozen chihuahua. I'm just me. :3

It takes time to get over all this and accept it, but I know you'll get there! You're gonna' be okay!

Things will get easier

by Lily - 2022-11-22 17:09:40

Hi Twill, I recently turned 37 and had my pacemaker implanted in January this year, so I can totally relate to how you feel. There are people of all ages in this group who have pacemakers. Just remember that you are not alone and there are wonderful people here with so much experience that we can learn from. Grief is part of healing, so take your time to process everything and to recover slowly. I know I needed a lot of time to realise what just happened to me and one day I just said to myself: Ok, enough with the crying, I will start enjoying my life now. We are all so lucky that we got diagnosed soon enough and that we got this wonderful friend (the pacemaker) who is always with us to help in need. Now I am looking at it as a part of me that was missing, an upgrade and not at all like something that prevents me from doing whatever I want.

Things will get better and better, soon you will forget you even have a pacemaker.

A few things to try

by BradyJohn - 2022-11-23 00:54:48

Hi Twill,

I was 56 when I got my pacemaker,  at least ten years after I could have used it.  My family thought 'dad passing out' was normal.  Thank God nothing terrible came of it. 

To help yourself calm, sit quietly in a chair,  ask yourself what the floor feels like. 

Name three things you see. 

Name three things you hear. 

Name three things you feel. 

Learn some focused breathing patterns. 

See, it's already helping...

Much love to you and your family, 

As others have said already,  in time you really will forget you have one of those,  whatchamacallits. 

Bradyjohn 

Thanksgiving

by CyborgMike - 2022-11-24 12:01:58

Hi Twill

Welcome to the club. We are the lucky ones. The ones that get to lead a relatively long and normal life with our kids. The ones that got reminded just how precious life is. 
Enjoy every day to the fullest. We are all on borrowed time, but those of us with PMs actually know it, appreciate it, and carry more gratitude in our hearts. 
You will live long and will be an amazing mother. 

Happy Thanksgiving!

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