Why do people want to pop our postive bubble

My father Kenneth was admitted to A&E early June and fitted with a pacemaker. At the end of July was admitted into hospital again and diagnosed with a extensive left temporel inhomogeneous - high grade glioma cancer in the brain.

At first we were all shocked but agreed to be a very happy family to spend as much time together and to find as many alternative therapies. ie Essiac Tea, Coral Calcium C10 and Oxy-Element. I have started praying and have been trying to faith heal, which seem to be helping. My father Kenneth finished his Radiotherapy 4 weeks again.
My Father is responding great to all the treatment and is looking good and making plans. My mother has worked very hard with him and my sister husband, mother and father are very happy.

What happened yesterday was terrible while I was at work my aunty phoned my mother and explained in detail in her opinion the poor diagnoses. My mother is heart broken now eventhough our small family had made great progress.

From being a postive nice person trying to help heal someone I love. I have change into a person that feels so much bitterness and hate I feel I am going to bad.

ps the alternative medicine and healing is working very well.

Debbie


7 Comments

Don't Go There.....

by cottontop - 2007-09-23 01:09:18

Debbie,
You know what is working ! Don't let others take you off track. I am not sure what you are talking about meaning alternative medicine, but the best medicince for me is God and lots of prayer. If not for the power of prayer I would not be here today. The doctors told my parents at the age of 10 that if I lived I would be a vegetable. We had been in a terrible car accident and my worst injury was a crushed heart. Well, 40 yrs. ago we didn't have all this modern tech. and my heart was drowning in it's own blood. They did all medicine could do. They could not believe that I pulled through. It was a long hall but my parents and family never gave up the faith. Finally I got a new name at the hospital even from the doctors "God's Miracle Child". The doctors said there is no reason as to why I was alive. We new! Then they told my parents I would never be able to normal things like other kids. God had other plans and I was a determined little girl. No running, no riding bikes,etc. I remember the first time I ran out the front door to get the mail. She was screaming-no- and I keeped on running. They said i would never be able to have children -other injuries- by the power of prayer. I got pregnant 3 times naturally and now have 3 adult children which I consider miracles and 5 wonderful healthy grandchildren which I consider miracles also. I could go on forever... but the point is I believe there is a higher power and I have so many churches and people praying for me know. It is truly amazing! Stay strong and do what you were doing. The devil loves to stir up trouble. Don't let him win! I am going to pray for you right now. I will continue to prayer for you and your family! Stay in touch!

God bless you,
cottontop ( Amy )

Having Faith

by SMITTY - 2007-09-23 02:09:28

Hi Debbie,

In my opinion your aunty is very inconsiderate, and her opinion is not worth very much. That was a cruel thing to do. I would say to your mother, look at what you see is working and consider the comments by aunty as input from the unknowing and forget those comments.

As for you, I would say go to a nice quiet place and have a heart to heart with your God. That should help you overcome at least some of your bitterness as bitterness, no matter how justifiable, is not going to help your mother and father at this time.

I wish you and your family the best.

Smitty

Many thanks

by dholt - 2007-09-23 02:09:40

Dear Amy

Many thanks for your response. What an amazing life you have had.

When I was four years old I had cancer and I don't think that anyone thought that I would live to 42 years of age, but I think that my mother and father are quite strong willed.

I have never been brought up in a church and the schools in Manchester don't really teach any religion. I personally for some reason have always had my own strong belief, so I feel this is why my father is allowing me to try and faith heal. A lady at work has just given me a wooden cross and I have been holding the cross when I am working at my desk.

I think that your story is amazing and will pass your story onto my mother and am sure we will keep trying.


Lots of love and thank you
Debbie

Hope

by hooimom - 2007-09-23 03:09:36

Debbie,

Many people do not understand how we can have hope in the middle of a crisis. You and your family have hope of a cure and that is wonderful. Reaching a place of positive attitude is impossible for some cancer patients and their families and it is very important in recovery. Your aunt probably didn't mean anything hurtful, she just doesn't understand where you are all coming from. Try not to let it make you sad or bitter. That is not what you need right now, and it is certainly not what your father needs. I personally believe that God heals people. Sometimes He uses doctors, sometimes medicines and alternative medicines and sometimes with a miracle no one can explain (like Amy). Keep believing and don't let one person shake your faith.

Michelle

you are the spokesman

by jessie - 2007-09-23 05:09:39

debra altho she has done the damage you need to let her know in no uncertain terms everything goes thru you and that this is quite unacceptable. be very firm and tell her how much harm she has done. you as a family have a right to handle this as you chose and with no interference. she did not have the right to do what she did so let her know this. thinking and praying for you and your husband and edith and kenneth love,maureen

I am the odd man out..

by queen_beez - 2007-09-27 10:09:02

I guess. I have written a private message as it was quite a long note because I have much experience dealing with this issue.
I just think that you all are being a little harsh,especially with the very little iifno. you all got on what her Auny said. Just for a moment think in terms of if it were your family member. One gets scared and one gets very worried when their loved one doesn't follow what a "standard doctors " advice might be. We don't even know what she said, which really doesn't matter, we do know that it hurt Debbies Moms feelings. That is something she needs to be told. But a scolding, I"m not so sure. She may have been coming from a place of real concern. When people get news like this they can go into over load in respect to what flies through their mind.Sometimes that makes people say or do things that had even an hour or 2 gone by that may not have done.
All I am saying is ,I have gone through this same situation, and my family were coming from a place of pure love. I think it takes a lot of courage to say some things at such a tough time but if she had not said anything ,maybe certain things would not had been brought to light. Cut her some slack,she is on the outside looking in and on the outside the view is always going to be different.
God bless you and your family and keep your positive attitude.Your father instilled that in you to some degree and I am sure he would not want anyone to take you down,even a notch .In the big scheme of things, this is trivial.Your faith and love and positive spirit is what your father needs most.
Truly,
Susan

Reply to the odd man out

by dholt - 2007-09-28 07:09:19

My aunty phoned my mother who is doing a wonderful job nursing my father and what we are all trying to do as a family is working at the moment as said that she had read all about his illness on the Internet and informed my mother that my father had only 3 months to live.

We have now managed to reassure my mother by getting in touch with the Consultant who is treating my father and the Consultant has reassured the family that my father is doing well.

ps my aunty did not say it once she repeated it a few times.

Thanks for all the replies I have received praying is really helping all of us

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