For Gemita to answer, or any woman

How do you females do housework?  Vacuum, dusting, windows, trash, And dishes. I mean since getting a pm i imagine your routine has changed.


Housework - what housework ?

by Gemita - 2021-01-15 13:25:19

I am assuming you are "Allison"? 

Have you got a husband?  Well my husband Michael does the housework for me.  In fact if I don't allow him to do it, it will cause an argument.  I am being quite serious here.  I tried to fight it for a long, long time, believing it should be my role in life.  He loves ironing, washing up, hoovering, dusting, cleaning windows, so I let him get on with it, while I do the cooking because he loves eating. Yes, I know guys, I am very very lucky, but what am I supposed to do about it?  

Sorry to disappoint you Alli but my pacemaker has given me more energy, is helping me to live a better quality of life.  It really works for me.  I feel less tired (probably because hubby is doing all the work).  He also has a pacemaker and has renewed energy.

I love gardening, so while Michael does the housework, I am up the ladder pruning my shrubs.  Roles seem to be reversed in this household, but does it really matter?

The first few months after my pacemaker implant were rough though, to be honest, with increased arrhythmias and painful symptoms but after 3-6 months these reduced.  Hopefully it will be the same for you too very soon Alli.

How are you doing ?  Has there been any improvement, however slight.  I do hope so.

Ladies... please don't read Gemita's reply

by IAN MC - 2021-01-15 13:56:15

Thanks Gemita !  You have now made every married lady ( even more ) dissatisfied with their husbands  !!



by Aberdeen - 2021-01-15 14:13:20

Very funny- Ian! My husband and I are both retired so we share the housework. He particularly likes ironing so he can watch music programmes, football and Grand Prix racing on tv while doing so!

After my pacemaker I could do everything I did before ( once I had rested my left arm )

I hope you are recovering well Alli.

Aberdeen and Ian

by Gemita - 2021-01-15 14:52:52

It gets worse, Michael loves sewing as well !!  (Actually he did tailoring growing up as a boy in Italy).  It came to a head one day when after I had loaded the dishwasher, Michael immediately unloaded it again and started washing up by hand. (He hates using electricity unnecessarily).  I asked him to leave the kitchen because he was in the way.  Well he got so upset and threatened to take the matter further.  We broke down and laughed when I asked "and what would you tell the solicitor as to why you want a divorce"?  He said, I would tell him my wife won’t let me wash up, do the sewing, do the ironing, do the dusting . . . .  Well I had no answer for a change.

Alli, getting back to your serious question, when you are well healed and your body gets used to pacing (I was back to normal after 3 months) I feel certain you will be able to get back to your normal activities.  I would take little steps at a time and be happy with your daily progress, however slow it might be.  Don’t try to do too much one day and nothing another day.  Pace yourself, so to speak, is my best advice.  What you cannot do today, you can do tomorrow.  And after all if a little dust collects, does it really matter?  My priority following implant surgery was to build my strength, improve my diet and lifestyle, to get plenty of rest.  My husband got his pacemaker a few months before me so he was well healed and ready to take over by the time I received mine

it's the same

by Tracey_E - 2021-01-15 17:56:48

Once we heal we can do whatever we want. Including telling our husbands when it's time to help out. It's his house too, I'm not his maid. 

Seriously, tho, there's nothing we did before that we can't do after, and usually with more energy. 


by new to pace.... - 2021-01-16 13:00:07

For me it was somewhat harder right after the implant of pacemaker.  As was unable to use right arm.  Did what i could ,  No cleaning until the left was able.  Now a year and a half later can do anything i wish with both arms.  As shoulder replacement has healed well.

And Housework.......

by Marybird - 2021-01-16 13:35:37

Well, I must say I have had much more energy post-pacemaker to do housework, but it hasn't made me like it any better. 

I'm really envious of the ladies who shared with us that their husbands do either all, most, or the lion's share of the housework, , I think my husband broke his fingers when we got married ( 41 yrs ago) though I think post-marital training finally rubbed off some and he does pick up after himself (generally), and he does wash dishes after I prepare a meal. But if I want a clean house, I have to do it myself. 

Like lots of others, I've always had to juggle housework with working full time raising a family, and a part time gig as a medical continuing education writer ( this last online in my pj's at night), so I tended to do portions of the housework in 1-2 hour time slots, and as a habit I would clean up, or pick up, dust, whatever as I went. With a few dire warnings to family members NOT to track up a newly mopped floor, or immediately undo the cleaning I had just finished, that seemed to work pretty well for me. So I continue this way, pretty much, into retirement. But I have more time now, since I have retired from my full time job. 

Actually, the pacemaker has given me more energy to do not just housework, but nearly anything else I want to do. I still can't play the drums, though. But then I never could. 

My Reply

by Alli - 2021-01-16 16:05:22

Thanks for all who answered. Gemita actually my name is Alicia but since people have called me Allie all these you are extremely lucky!! Guys like yours is rare or seem to be. I was married at 25 to a guy and was lucky to get out with my life. But that is another story.

No i am not disappointed. It is good your pm gives you energy. Honestly i can't tell a difference as of right now. But i do fanasize about life before. Does anyone think that's wrong to do?

Recently my mom has moved back in with me and made my burden harder. I have no help at all...Germita i can move my left arm slightly so you can say my body made 10% progress. I do tend to push myself but where we live it is mandatory we keep our place super clean. To Ian LOL that is funny!!


by Gemita - 2021-01-16 16:50:21

What a beautiful name and you do sound as though you are healing. 10% progress is enormous. No it is not wrong to fantasize about what you most desire.  I do it all the time and it has made me the person I am today.  I would like you to fantasize about who you want to be with your little friend the pacemaker, what you can achieve with it in the future.

Yes I am very lucky with a husband who enjoys looking after a home and I would like to share him with those less fortunate sometimes.  It is very unusual though for an Italian man of his age and background to behave like this, but I am not complaining at all.

I send my best wishes to you and to your Mom


Thanks for comment

by Alli - 2021-01-16 20:39:07

Thank you Gemita for your comment about my name. :)  yes i fantasize about it, that they had a recall and had to remove it and after a long while of healing i am free like a bird.

Oh no i would never ask for help from someones husband. That would embarrass me, lol.

Anyway got to put mom in bed now.  (Sighs) Best to you and yours.

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