to much caring

does anybody else feel since you got the pacemaker you feel to many people don't want anything to happen to you well that's me. when I shut my bedroom door and lock it all horror breaks loose everybody's like are you okay I mean like I am okay I just wanted to sit In my room but no you cant do this you cant do that I mean ahhhh! well if anybody feels like that please help

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by Grateful Heart - 2014-02-15 11:02:33

Everybody treats you like you are going to break in the beginning. You're right, it is because they care.

Here was my solution: I learned about the pacemaker and how it worked and why I needed it. Then I taught my friends and family about it and they became more comfortable with it just as I did.

Now.....they forget about it most of the time.

It takes a little time but think about it......we would be sad if no one cared.

Grateful Heart

I agree with Grateful Heart

by SaraTB - 2014-02-16 06:02:20

The more you educate yourself (and this is the website to do that), the more you'll know and be able to tell your family and friends. Once they realise you know what you're talking about, they'll ease off.
It can be very frustrating, but I think sometimes it's scarier for your family and friends, because they don't know much, and don't know what you're feeling either, and the natural impulse is to wrap you in cotton wool and keep you safe.
Read as much as you can about your specific condition, how the pacemaker deals with it, and consider sitting down with them, and explaining that you understand their desire to protect you, but that you need them to back off a bit. Reassure them with the information you have gathered, and that the PM means you're NOT going to collapse or pass out. Knowledge is power!

caring sister

by labor99 - 2014-02-16 08:02:06

My sister is starting to drive me nuts about my ICD.

Enjoy

by bmccasland - 2014-02-16 09:02:28

Enjoy the pampering lol, It won't last long. I know, mine is already starting to wear off.

I know how you feel

by mtaylor - 2014-02-18 12:02:49

I realize this may not be a feasible option for you, but I had my ICD implanted when I was 19, and instantly became the "dependant child" again. Once I was sorted out medically and everything, I went and lived/worked out of town for a summer (Then came back home for school). Some separation helped all involved.

Just go for a walk by yourself every so often, it will eventually sink in to people that you are not an infant again.

You know you're wired when...

You participate in the Pacer Olympics.

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