significant others ??
I was wondering how everyone's partners deal with your pacemaker, defibrillator, or your sickness.
In sickness and in health right?
It's an adjustment for all of us.
I feel badly for mine- for having to put up with me.
With Valentine's Day around the corner, I was wondering what ya'll's thoughts were.
8 Comments
LOL
by Angelie - 2009-02-10 04:02:59
That's a good one, Patch. Too funny.
hey....I know. I can tell my hubby-
"honey, I'm so gah-gah over you that you make my pacer work double time. If you were a little less exciting, I might not need this darn thing at all"
LOL!
Valentines Gift
by BillMFl - 2009-02-10 05:02:37
My wife would like a remote control for my pm. Not sure exactly what she has in mind.
we have settled in........
by jessie - 2009-02-10 06:02:31
i have a p.m. he has a faulty heart. we really don't talk about either. it is what it is. we were once new and lovely and young. now we are old stupid and senile. meanwhile it has been quite a ride. come to think of it in april it will be 45 years for us. we have a redneck daughter in calgary with a redneck husband and two smaller versions of them twelve and nine. they are busier than hell making their way and raising two great kids. we have a son who just returned after being out of the country for ten years. he is a stockbroker and of course that is a joke at the moment but he supplements his salary teaching at two community colleges. my husband won't be home for valentines day uless he finds his way out of the dessert. patch knows what i mean. for you youngsters it just might be more of an adjustment but not any different than an chronic illness or diabetus or something else. i just don't make a big deal of it. neither does he. who would listen. happy valentines day allof the pm's and defibs at this site. i love y'all jessie
I'll never be able to repay her
by bobad - 2009-02-10 08:02:39
My lovely wife has been there for me every minute. I spent 21 days in 7 stays in hospital, and she was there. She was the first to greet me when I awoke from 7 different procedures. She was needed at work, and it put a lot of pressure on her to not miss. I managed to shoo her away and she worked a few hours on a few occasions.
When returning home 2 different times with large, gaping wounds in my chest, she was there every night with mask and gloves, stuffing sterile gauze into my wounds. I will never be able to repay her if we live to be 100.
Valentines Day....
by pacergirl - 2009-02-10 11:02:45
Well, I have to tell you.... when I received my last gift at Christmas time... all I said to him was when are the kids going home? he he....
My hubby enjoys a lot of things and that includes me. He has never made a big deal over the pacer. He does get tears in his eyes, which he tries to hide, when he sees me struggling.
He is am amazing man and I am very lucky to have him. He encourages me to be who I am. He encourages me to love whomever I choose. Not in a physical sense, but if I love my friends, my family, the dog it's fine with him. He knows that I also allow him to be who he is. Having a pacemaker just means he gets to have me around longer. That is all it is to him.
He actually was shocked to find out I needed one in the first place. Scared him senseless. When he actually started to understand that I would die without it... he completely went to pieces.
So, in closing I must say the pacer is a miracle devise. It not only puts the life back into me, but has done wonders for my.... sex life and my marriage.
Hooray for the pacemaker!
Happy Valentines Day! My Personal Favorite Celebration!
I also Have An Angel
by walkerd - 2009-02-11 02:02:43
When my things began in July 08 my wife was there for me all the time. I think the surgery was harder on her than me and I had bypass. I think that poor woman aged ten years during the Four week ordeal. She is the heart and soul of our household. If it wherent for her I probably wouldnt be here right now. She deserves so much more than I can ever give her. She never and I mean never does anything for herself everyone else comes first. She is my world, my life and my best friend. Anything that I could give her for valentines day or anyother day would never be enough. Because I am not the easiest person to live with and I know that. If I go fishing with my buddy she always calls or texts to make sure Im alright. She is my sunshine that keeps me going. She truely is an angel whether she thinks so or not. I feel Im one of the luckest men on the face of the earth, and alot of times I dont show it.
dave
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by GrandmaD - 2009-02-11 10:02:57
My husband is a man of few words, It's not something he ever talks about- now. When i had this put in with no warning 6 years ago - he never left my side.All of a sudden everyone at his work - or that knew me - was aware of the problem.The only problem I have ever had, is that he won't let me do any sports or the like (cleaning doesn't matter Ha ha). He has been a pillar of strength for me in my time of need.
You know you're wired when...
You run like the bionic man.
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Yesterday was my first day mountain biking after my implant. I wiped out several times and everything is fine. There are sports after pacemakers!
put up with
by Tracey_E - 2009-02-10 03:02:33
I don't want to hear you say that!!! Seriously. I sure hope that's your phrase and not his, because if it's his I need to come smack him upside the head. If you love someone, you love them despite all their problems and you don't look at problems as something you have to put up with. You put up with a root canal and high taxes, you love your spouse and help them cope. You don't have to like it all the time or always understand what they're feeling, and we all get frustrated whether you're the sick or healthy partner, but life isn't a bed of roses and you take the good with the bad. It's called being an adult.
My husband has his head in the sand. If he doesn't talk about it, it's not a problem right? LOL I never really talk about it either, not out of avoidance or anything bad but simply because I refuse to let it define my life. It's part of who I am and I don't dwell on it, and the people who love me don't either.